1. don`t get wrapped up in the difference, get to know the man behind the mask…


  2. "Six elements to staying in love, included in Love is a Decision, are:
    Making your spouse feel truly honored.
    Learning the art of touching—tenderly.
    Keeping courtship alive in your marriage.
    Re-opening a heart closed by anger.
    Building—or rebuilding—trust in a relationship.
    Becoming best friends with your family
    These six elements are the keys to Love. Love is not an emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love is a Decision. Love is waking up every day committed to honoring your mate by implementing the above six keys. If you want to have a great relationship, guess what, it’s up to you."
    —  Tony Bradford (saw this on facebook… loved it)

    (Source: rafaelcasal)

  3. i may be a hopeless romantic. but this is beautiful.

    never give up on LOVE.


  4. Black Relationships/Marriage

    • There are roughly 1.4 million black women now in college, compared to just 900,000 black men.
    • More than two million men are now imprisoned in the U.S., and roughly 40% of them are African-American. At any given time, more than 10% of black men in their 20s or 30s—prime marrying ages—are in jail or prison.
    • many black women remain unmarried because they think they have too few options, some black men stay single because they think they have so many.
    • Even as divorce rates have declined for most groups during the past few decades, more than half of black marriages dissolve.
    • Only about 1 in 20 black women are interracially married.
    • Black women lead by far the most segregated intimate lives of any minority group in the U.S.
    • They broke up because she couldn’t imagine having children with him. “I wanted chocolate babies,”

    I`ve had these conversations multiple times with black women who won`t “cross the color line” I can respect their reasons but I would never halt my happiness for “chocolate babies”

    (Source: The Wall Street Journal)


  5. "Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who broke your heart. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you."
    — taken from my friend Fllanza Bacaj

  6. "People who are meant to be together will always find their way back to each other. They make take detours in life, but they’re never lost."

    — Anon

    not sure how i feel about this.


  7. my thought provoking piece for the night.


  8. badass-senorita:



    Treat that person with respect please? Guys, be courteous and hold the door for your girl. Ladies, don’t give men too much stress about the littlest things. Respect each other, try and refrain from cussing in fights or interrupting each other. Allow each person to…


  9. #cancer

    sometimes we as people have expectations for others. we should stop it. what one does others don`t! thats what signifies our relationships. that`s why you choose one to be with for life and not multiple most of the time

    We must learn to control these expectations. we are are individuals, physio-bio-social, all affect who we are. so don`t expect us to act the same

    i have one best friend! two accountability partners and some great friends. but each of our relationships is different. I am a very open person but I am not stupid I don`t expect to meet any other person that could even come close to replacing those I have in my life right now. 

    i know that no one will replace my lodo. she is special we have a bond that no one could break and blood couldn`t make us any closer.

    Also, we all are human.

    we all have some kind of flaw on my greek mythology tip right now…wondering which is my tragic flaw. But our flaws affect every aspect of our life until we own up to them and accept them. Recognize someones flaws and you will see how that affects their everyday relationships with people. [slippery slope] I do sneaky things therefore I don`t trust others and therefore I can`t open up to you like the friend I say that I am. 

    Expect: 1. transitive verb confidently believe something: to believe with confidence, or think it likely, that an event will happen in the future

    My advice only have confidence in yourself. When you find someone you feel you can have confidence in then give them a special place in your life. 

    "Truth is, everyone is going to hurt you; you just have to find the ones worth suffering for."—Bob Marley